Talking to Your Child About Drinking: Practical Tips for Parents

Starting a conversation with your child about the dangers of alcohol can feel challenging, especially as they navigate their teenage years filled with peer pressure, exams, and exposure to new experiences. Open communication on topics like drinking may seem uncomfortable, but discussing the risks and promoting healthy habits is essential for guiding them toward responsible choices. Claire Wadsworth, Senior Development Officer at Scottish Families Affected by Drugs and Alcohol, offers effective tips on how to have these conversations. With honesty, empathy, and a non-judgmental approach, parents can help their teens understand the realities of alcohol while providing them with tools to make informed decisions.

Avoid Overloading Them with Information

It’s tempting to lecture teens on all the negative effects of alcohol, but too much information can quickly become “white noise.” Focus on sharing a few key points, like the risks of starting to drink at a young age. According to studies, teens who drink early may face a greater risk of developing alcohol issues as adults. By choosing specific facts and avoiding exaggeration, parents can keep the conversation impactful and credible, giving teens information they’re more likely to remember and consider.

Don’t Buy Alcohol for Them

It’s a common misconception that buying alcohol for your child allows you to control what and how much they consume. The reality is that most teens will drink whatever they can get, whether it’s from you or another source. Providing alcohol may also blur boundaries and send mixed messages. Instead, set clear limits and make it known that you’re not comfortable supplying alcohol. This approach reinforces a sense of responsibility, encouraging teens to think carefully about their choices.

Encourage Open, Judgment-Free Conversations

Encourage your child to talk openly about their experiences and feelings around drinking, but be prepared for honest answers. Instead of reacting negatively or restricting their freedom, thank them for their honesty. For example, you could say, “I’m proud of you for resisting peer pressure.” Recognize that it’s an achievement for teens to say no to drinking when their friends might be indulging. This approach reinforces positive behavior and strengthens the trust between you and your child, making them more likely to turn to you in the future.

Provide Them with Practical Tools to Resist Peer Pressure

Sometimes teens want to say no to drinking but struggle with peer pressure. Share tips or excuses they can use, such as saying they have an early commitment the next day or that their parents won’t allow it. Sharing stories of times you’ve also felt pressured can help them feel supported and understood. Let them know it’s okay to be different and that others may feel relieved when one person in the group chooses not to drink. These strategies offer them real tools to navigate social situations without succumbing to pressure.